Everything is wonderful at the start. You are both in love. The sex is great . . . She even does this thing with a costume that turns you on! You have the kind of relationship that you hope will last forever. So you get engaged.
Your family is happy for you. Your friends throw you parties. You get married and take a wonderful vacation. The sex is good. You hope it will last forever.
[Are you at this stage? That’s great! You can avoid the pitfalls that lay ahead!]
Maybe you buy a house. Maybe you have a kid. There are pressures at work for both of you. Your wife starts telling you what to do and criticizing how you do it. Sex is infrequent, without much variety. You hope this phase won’t last very long.
[Are you at this stage? Congrats! You’re finding answers early enough to turn this around!]
It isn’t a phase. It goes on for years. You can’t seem to make your wife happy. She’s always tired or grumpy or has a headache. (A headache that lasts for 3 months?!? See a doctor!) There’s very little sex and she definitely won’t do that thing you like with the costume. Most of your friends have similar complaints, so you figure there’s not much you can do about it.
[Is this where you are? Lots of guys get stuck here. For years and years. But you can fix it!]
Your wife starts acting weird. Her work schedule changes. She has to go on a business trip or takes a weekend to see some “college friends.” You check her phone when she’s not around and find lots of calls to someone you don’t know. And then you find the pictures. You’re not sure who the guy is, but that’s definitely your wife . . . doing that thing in the costume she won’t do for you!
[Are you dealing with infidelity? I’m sorry! You probably need a licensed counselor if you try to save the marriage; or a divorce lawyer, if you don’t. Keep reading to find out how to become the guy that never deals with this again.]
Coming up next . . . why this happens. Over and over. To millions of guys. (Why doesn’t someone tell us this when we’re 18?!?)
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